“One of the simplest rules in mathematics states that the shortest distance between two points is a straight line. However, it doesn’t make a difference what the longest or shortest distance is if there’s no movement. If you want to reach your goals and make them more than just dreams, then you must take action. Without movement there is only point A and point B with no way to get there.” – Cherry Coley
I have had to battle the demons from my past the last few days. Those memories that haunt and an attitude that wants to settle around me like a dark cloud and seep into my skin to become a part of me again.
A close friend of mine told me that I should stop writing positive drivel and write about a lot of the crap that I’ve experienced along the way. I told him that no one would believe all the stuff I’ve been through, not that it didn’t happen, but that there is so much of it. Truly, most people experience one or two major mishaps in life if they are unlucky enough, but I’ve had so many that even I sit and shake my head in wonder at why I am still here at times.
He also told me that I have a great talent for description and that if I have something to say then just say it. Well, okay, but I will do it my way, not yours.
For the last few days and especially last night, the darkness tried really hard to reassert its self and last night I went to bed feeling like I was losing the battle, that I had failed and should just write everything that happened, reliving it all in vivid detail as I did. I had nightmares all night.
The thing is, while I was experiencing living with an abusive, narcissistic, sociopath and that was after being in a rather odd relationship with another one previously, I had become a ghost like reflection of who I once was. In those years I was just a shell of a person functioning on the outside, putting up a good front so that things would seem normal to those who looked on.
I still had a positive attitude even then, though I struggled with it and it was only surface deep. I still believed in better days and that the sun would shine.
In talking to my friend something defensive in me woke up. It wasn’t a whimpering, sad shadow either. He kept asking me how I could be so positive after so much. My unwavering answer is because NO ONE CONTROLS ME! No one controls my attitude and my outlook except ME!
Whatever the world and life throws your way, you CAN come out stronger, better, but it’s a choice. You have the power to CHOOSE how you apply the events and mishaps in your life. You can learn from them and become stronger, or you can let them take you down, dwelling on them, feeling anger, revenge, helplessness, and relive them over and over. I choose to learn, to get up and to keep going. I choose to believe there’s more that life has to teach and offer.
I don’t just think the sun will shine again and that better days will eventually be here….I KNOW.
For me, it’s no longer faith as much as it’s experience. When you’re up against that cliff and there’s nothing to do but to step off the ledge, you can be sure that God is going to catch you, or teach you to fly. The thing is that in order to go forward, you do have to move, faith is grown by action, not waiting and life is about choices.
Cherry Coley (c)
- Is Your Cup Half-Full or Half-Empty? Attitude is Everything (briansmithpld.com)
- Living Without Excuses (gettingbetterman.wordpress.com)