Facing Fears

Dark forest

Dark forest

I faced another fear today.  You see, I used to have a major fear of getting up in front of people.  When I was growing up I was forced to sing solo many times in church.  I hated that.  I have the kind of singing voice that goes well with a duet or choir, but solo’s are not my thing.

I was also in drama growing up which didn’t go that well either.  I had some mishaps on stage and most of the time I couldn’t make myself speak loud enough to be heard.  Yet, after I had my kids something changed.  Suddenly I was “mom” and mom’s can’t cower in corners from monsters under the bed, or spiders on the wall, they have to face fears and protect their children.

When my kids were still little I did a Christmas play, I only had a small speaking part, and just as I was about to get that familiar stage fright, I remembered that I had to speak to classrooms of kids regularly, referee, and protect my kids from bullies so why should I be afraid of saying a few words in front of people?

Still, today was a big step for me.  I have felt like I should tell my story to others.  After all when you’ve been through so much in life, you should share your experiences, maybe it will help someone else.  I have gained some confidence in sharing things on blogs and social media, but that’s not the same as truly putting yourself in front of other people.

Today I shared part of my life’s journey in church.  I feel like I did ramble a bit, but over all it went pretty well.  When I stepped up I felt the old familiar fear, and all week I almost talked myself out of it, but there was a part of me that refused. I need to face my fears, they are self-made obstacles that have held me back for far too long.

A funny happens when you face fears, they dissipate just like that, they are gone.  I was nervous going up to the podium, then suddenly I wasn’t afraid anymore.  One fear down, many more to go.  One big step forward to what might be a very interesting future.

Take time this year to look at the things that have held you back in your life.  Are they real fears or are they self-made obstacles?  Take a chance and find out, false fears can’t hold their ground when you stand up to them.  Realize that the only limits you have are the one’s you’re placing on yourself.  Choose to make this year count!

Cherry Coley (c)

 

Delayed but Not Permanently

Today I am thankful for delays.  I know that may sound weird, but there have been so many close calls in my life, times when if I had not been delayed then I could have been in harms way.  How many times have you been running late for work, only to pass an accident on the way that happened just moments before?

I am thankful for other delays as well. There have been times when I didn’t get to go somewhere on a trip only to have the weather turn bad.  There have been times when I thought I had landed the perfect job, only to find at the last minute that they chose someone else.  There have been times when I have been stuck in the same place wanting to move forward and finding that I just couldn’t seem to get a handle on things until later on when suddenly it seemed everything just fell into place.

I don’t have any answers for why we are delayed at times.  It can be frustrating and disappointing, but I believe everything happens for a reason.  When we are delayed then there is a reason that we may or may not ever be made aware of.  Now days I have learned to pay more attention if one thing after another goes wrong I have learned to question, if there are odd events and delays along the way I will sometimes opt out of going to the event.  If there are that many red flags then there must be a reason.

Sometimes I thank God for the delays, because the delays caused me to miss the storm.  Life is a learning experience, be thankful for all the lessons and insight it has to offer.

Cherry Coley (c)